A mentor taught me that there are consequences to my decisions

Three young African American girls looking at a cell phone

When I was in sixth grade, I was going through a lot of problems with my parents and could consider myself rebellious. One day in walked a woman. She was gorgeous and tall, walking with elegance. Something about her made her more interesting than anyone else I had ever seen. She walked up to me and said, “AnnToneya?” I smiled and replied, “Yes?” She told me her name and said that she’d be my mentor. She asked about what was going on at home and told me I needed to be aware of how my parents felt, as well as making the right decisions for myself. She told me the decisions I made young were never too early to reflect on my future. Hearing her say this is the reason my life motto is “the life you live now makes the legacy you leave later.” Without her, I don’t think I would have realized that decisions hold consequence.

To add to the meaning of the message, as life went on I dealt with many situations and learned consequences follow my decisions. For example, during my senior year in high school and at the beginning of college, I realized that I actually had to study and focus. When you hit a certain level, like senior year of high school, you think about how graduation is around the corner and how it’s “your year.” During my senior year I got caught up in the fun things like preparing for senior prom, thinking of a senior prank, going to all of the sporting events, etc., that I almost forgot my academic status was what gave me these privileges. Another lesson is from my experience in a pageant. In December of 2015, I participated in a beauty pageant. When I signed up to do it I believed it would be so fun and easy. Actually, it was the exact opposite. I learned that by me making this decision to be in a pageant, I was committing time and money. I had to make sure work and class were not interfered with as well as monthly finances, such as rent and phone bills. In the end, I learned that my decision making on one day would effect me the next.


About the Author
AnnToneya Hill

AnnToneya Hill

AnnToneya Hill is sophomore transfer student at the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville, Arkansas. She is double majoring in English and Journalism and minoring in business. Originally from Davenport, Iowa, AnnToneya moved to Carlisle, Arkansas, in 2011 as a high school sophomore. Her future goals consist of collecting a Master’s in English to teach, or to write for journals and newspapers. In her spare time, AnnToneya enjoys singing, writing, and reading. She also partakes in some of the community service events in Fayetteville and the Northwest Arkansas area and was named Miss Black and Gold for the Kappa Kappa chapter of Alpha Phi Alpha.